Sleep training can be a game-changer for families struggling with sleepless nights. However, it’s not uncommon for parents to hit roadblocks or make mistakes. I’ve worked with countless families and noticed a few common missteps that can hinder progress.
1. Starting Too Soon or Too Late
Timing is everything when it comes to sleep training. Many parents start before their baby is developmentally ready, often out of desperation. On the other hand, waiting too long can make the process harder as sleep habits solidify.
How to Avoid It: Most babies are ready for sleep training between 4 and 6 months of age. Before 4 months, we can work on Sleep Shaping. In my Newborn Package, I can help set a good sleep foundation and make sleep training easier when your child turns 4 months old.
2. Inconsistency in Method
One of the biggest hurdles to sleep training is inconsistency. Switching between methods—such as trying a no-tears approach one night and letting your baby cry it out the next—can confuse your child and delay progress. Regardless of what method you choose, you need to follow through.
How to Avoid It: Choose a sleep training method that aligns with your parenting style and stick with it for at least 1-2 weeks to give it a fair chance to work.
3. Unrealistic Expectations
Many parents expect immediate results and feel frustrated when their baby doesn’t sleep through the night within a few days. While sleep training can work quickly for some, others may take longer to adjust. Things tend to get worse before they get better, don't let that discourage you.
How to Avoid It: Set realistic goals and understand that progress isn’t always linear. Celebrate small victories, like longer stretches of sleep or fewer night wakings.
4. Overlooking the Bedtime Routine
A predictable and calming bedtime routine is the foundation of successful sleep training. Skipping this step or rushing through it can make it harder for your baby to settle down. A good bedtime routine shouldn't take longer than 20-30min
How to Avoid It: Establish a consistent bedtime routine that includes soothing activities like a warm bath, reading, or cuddling. This signals to your baby that it’s time to wind down.
5. Responding Too Quickly to Night Wakings
It’s natural to want to comfort your baby as soon as they cry, but rushing in too quickly can make it harder for them to self-soothe and fall back asleep independently. Some times babies can make noises while they are transitioning between sleep cycles, that doesn't mean that they are fully awake.
How to Avoid It: Pause and give your baby a few moments to see if they can settle on their own. If they continue to cry, respond in a way that aligns with your sleep training method.
6. Ignoring Sleep Environment
An overstimulating or uncomfortable sleep environment can undermine even the best sleep training efforts. Things like bright lights, noise, or an overly warm room can disrupt your baby’s sleep.
How to Avoid It: Create a sleep-friendly environment with blackout curtains, white noise, and a room temperature between 68–72°F. Ensure your baby’s crib is safe and free from distractions like toys or bumpers.
7. Giving Up Too Soon
Sleep training can be exhausting, especially when progress seems slow. Some parents give up after a few tough nights, assuming it’s not working. If you are having a hard time, get support before throwing the towel.
How to Avoid It: Patience and consistency are key. If you’re struggling, reach out and book a free 15 min assessment call.
Sleep training isn’t one-size-fits-all, and it’s okay to face challenges along the way. By avoiding these common mistakes and staying consistent, you can set your baby up for healthy sleep habits that last a lifetime. If you feel overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to reach out. A little support can go a long way in making sleep training a success for your family.
Xo,
Sarah Freed
Pediatric Sleep Consultant
MPH, BDS, Founder of Building Sleep
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