Help! I Let My Toddler Sleep in My Bed and Now He Won’t Leave

...Let’s talk about how to get your bed back without a meltdown.

You’re scrolling at 11pm, toddler starfished across your bed, wondering how did we get here? The answer: life happened. Maybe they were sick, teething, scared of the dark, or maybe you just needed sleep. Letting your toddler sleep in your bed was survival mode—and that’s okay.

But now it’s the norm, and you’re ready to make a change.

Here’s how to shift things gently, without turning bedtime into a war zone:

1. Start With a Conversation (Yes, Even with Toddlers!)

Toddlers understand way more than we think. Explain that everyone sleeps best in their own bed. Keep it simple: “You’re getting so big! It’s time to sleep in your own cozy bed again.”

2. Make Their Toddler Bed Irresistible

Reignite the excitement about their own sleep space.Let them choose new bedding, a special stuffed animal, a nightlight—something to give them ownership and comfort.

3. Pick a Gentle Method—and Be Consistent

There’s no one-size-fits-all, but here are a few tried-and-true approaches:

• The Stay-in-the-Room Method: Sit beside their bed until they fall asleep, gradually moving closer to the door over several nights.

• The Walk-Back Method: Each time they show up in your bed, calmly and quietly walk them back. Yes, it might take 10+ times the first night. No talking, no big reactions—just calm consistency.

  
  

4. Expect Pushback (and Hold Steady)

Change is hard—especially when it’s been comfy snuggling with you. Expect some tears or protests at first. That’s normal. Stay calm, loving, and consistent.

5. Celebrate the Wins

Even one night in their bed is a big deal! Hype it up. “You slept in your bed like a big kid! I’m so proud of you!”

You want to make sure you are setting your child up for success, only offer rewards if you feel like they will they can actually acomplish ,the small steps, potherwise they will quickly lose interest.

If your toddler has taken over your bed, you’re not alone. And no, it’s not too late to make a change. With a clear plan, consistency, and a little empathy, you can get your space—and your sleep—back.

Need help figuring out the right strategy for your family? That’s exactly what I do. 💛